Top 10: Female Sex Fantasies

No.10 Domination (her dominating you)

Women love a big strong man who can sweep them off their feet and carry them into the sunset — but you may be surprised to learn that one of the top female sex fantasies is to have that same big strong man begging for sexual release in the bedroom. The entire scenario revolves around you worshipping her body and begging for her attention. Why? She gets to be in control while enjoying total devotion from her man in the process. What more could she want?

No.9 Domination (you dominating her)

The advent of the metrosexual is most commonly blamed for this top 10 female sex fantasy. It seems that modern, independent women actually prefer real men who aren’t afraid to embrace their testosterone. This woman fantasizes about you pinning her down and thrusting her thighs apart with your knee. She wants to feel your fingers snake through her hair and pull her head back; she wants to feel your teeth on her shoulder; she wants to be owned — if only while in the bedroom (after which, she’ll want a clear return to equality). This win-win female sex fantasy scenario allows her to fully indulge her femininity, while still espousing the merits of feminism.

No.8 Teacher/student

You’ll be thrilled to know that the Britney Spears fantasy isn’t just for men: Women love the idea of dressing up like a schoolgirl and parading about for your viewing pleasure. Many would even like to take it a step further, playing the naughty tart who won’t stop teasing you until you pull her over your knee and give her the spanking she craves. That’s right: Loads and loads of grown women fantasize about getting a proper spanking from their man. A spanking from you is exciting for two reasons: Not only does this mild show of dominance hurt so good, but it also usually leads straight into hot, hot sex.

No.7 Sex with a stranger

Most women wouldn’t have the chutzpah to act out this top 10 female sex fantasy, but you’d better believe that most have thoroughly enjoyed thinking about it. No-strings-attached sex is something many women would love to experience, but most are dissuaded from it thanks to a lofty load of self-produced guilt. Nevertheless, her libido definitely gets fired up at the idea of a gorgeous male approaching her in a dark, smoky bar and taking her back to his room for a long, hot night of wild sex. This female sex fantasy appeals to her naughtiest side — the kinky one that rarely sees the light of day.

No.6 Threesome with another woman

These days, it’s fairly common for straight women to get down with other women now and again, making this top 10 female sex fantasy a not-so-unrealistic possibility. That being said, this threesome fantasy rarely involves you getting playtime with the second hottie, as most girlfriends do not want to see their man touch another woman. In this scenario, you’re meant to play voyeur until your woman is ready for something more hardcore. This allows her to experience the best of both worlds without having to worry about things like jealousy or sharing.

No.5 Threesome with two men

This top 10 female sex fantasy involves the woman being worshipped and adored by two gorgeous men. These men are typically heterosexual and, therefore, only interested in the woman — which translates into a whole lot of action for her. Her sex fantasy might be as innocent as being penetrated by one man while performing oral sex on the other or it might go further. This female sex fantasy is the ultimate taboo for many women, which makes it all the more fun to imagine.

No.4 Voyeurism

If you think women don’t enjoy watching other people get it on, you’re completely mistaken. Your woman likes to watch for the same reasons as you do: It’s erotic, exhilarating and slightly taboo. She may fantasize about peeping through the neighbor’s bedroom window, spying on a kinky couple in the park or even catching a full-on orgy from the sidelines. Believe it when we tell you she enjoys “watching” just as much as you do; it allows to her be naughty without getting her hands dirty, so to speak.

No.3 Force fantasies

As mentioned in our common female fantasies article, force fantasies are massively popular among women. Most psychologists believe this top 10 female sex fantasy allows a woman to have the wild, dirty sex she craves, without having to suffer the guilt that often follows. These female sex fantasies usually involve a gorgeous man carrying her off to his bedroom and quickly getting down to business. She’ll protest as he tears her clothing off and expertly arouses her body, but on the inside, she’ll love every minute of it.

No.2 Exhibitionism

She might cringe when you bring up the topic of making homemade porn flicks, but your woman has probably fantasized about doing precisely that at one time or another. Unfortunately, most women are far too body-conscious to experiment with such things, making this a top 10 female sex fantasy, as opposed to a reality. Believe it or not, some women even take this desire to the next level, fantasizing about others watching as you shag her silly in a public place.

No.1 Private dancer

Most women wouldn’t have the nerve to strip in a public setting, but this top 10 female sex fantasy definitely involves taking it all off. She loves the idea of tantalizing you with a striptease, and she’d love to give you a private lap dance. Why? Your enjoyment tells her you find her attractive, and your erection tells her she has control — a potent combination that women simply can’t get enough of.

The Treasure Club

520 Swannanoa River Road
Asheville, NC 28805
Phone: 828-298-1400

Your Guide To Swinging

Swinging, or “the lifestyle,” is defined as social sex between consenting adults — usually heterosexual couples who swap with others. But before you pack up your condoms and head to the nearest swingers’ club, there are a few things you need to know first.

To start, although most swingers’ clubs allow women in without a partner, that is not typically the case for men. And if there is a “single men allowed” night, you can bet you’re ass that you’ll be surrounded by a hell of a lot more men than women. So if you’re in a relationship with an “up for anything” kind of girl, read on. If not, then better luck next time, dude.

how does swinging work?

Nowadays, there are a bunch of nightclubs in which couples who enjoy the lifestyle head to on the week-ends.

Although this location provides a great “getting to know you” environment, it is not, where the swingers swing. There are different premises for the sex (someone’s home, a camping ground, etc.).

Although certain elite clubs specify that you have to be invited by someone from the club to get in, most swingers’ associations don’t discriminate, and will welcome you with open legs, so don’t fret.

how can you get in?

To begin, I strongly recommend that you do this with a woman with whom you’re seriously involved. When guys show up with “a ticket” (a woman, whether it be an escort, a buddy, or a nympho, who does you the favor of getting you in the door), the community doesn’t like that very much.

As well, make sure that your woman is comfortable with the idea. Of course, the biggest selling point is the fact that neither of you has to do anything with anyone else. A few more reasons why she might like the idea of swinging include:

  • You can recreate that feeling you had when you first met, where both of you are excited and anxious.
  • You will appreciate her more when you notice that other men and women desire her as much as you do.
  • If she’s worried about the way her body looks, assure her that the swinging community tends to overlook body type, size and age.
  • She can dress as sexy as she wants.
  • Both of you can socialize and talk about sex openly with others.

issues to work out

But before the two of you head out, there are issues that you should definitely discuss beforehand. To start, make sure that you and she only say “yes” to certain activities when you mean it.

Some swingers don’t like to watch their partner having sex with other people (called “closed” swinging), while others prefer it (“open” swinging), and yet others may opt for messing around with other swingers but only having sex with their partners (“soft” swinging).

Also keep in mind that you are not obligated to swing (although I’m guessing that you probably want to); about 10% of people don’t swing at all and are only there to hang out (literally) and socialize.

showing up

Before you head out, it’s always a good idea to make reservations. Usually, the host of the party will fill you in on the etiquette and party rules, but there are still a few things you should know beforehand.

Show up together
To start, make sure you arrive with your woman, rather than have her meet you inside on her own time.

Dress with the style
As for the style of dress, it’s very casual and women usually dress up very sexy at the off-premises events (such as dance clubs). On premises, perhaps bringing along a robe, as well as your “easy to remove” clothing would be a good idea. That way, rather than get dressed and undressed over and over again, you can walk around in your robe.

Also, sometimes these events have theme parties, like cowboy night or Hawaiian night, if so, find out what the theme is and follow the trend.

Clean yourself up
I strongly recommend that you shave, shower, brush your teeth, clean your nails, and make sure you’re fresh all around. You never know what to expect, maybe your girl will want to play — with you and others.

we’re in, now what?

So you went to the club and were invited to the off-premises party. Good job, or at least, it might be. Now, here’s what you have to do.

Your best bet would be to make friends. Find another couple you’re comfortable with and have them show you around the next few times you attend.

As well, once you’re in the down and dirty scene, there are some more rules you need to abide by:

Don’t offend people
If a couple approaches you and your woman, don’t look at them in disgust and yell out “No way!” This is a friendly environment, and a simple, “Thanks, but we’re not interested” will do.

Don’t harass other couples
If you and your woman decide to hook up with another couple, and the couple declines your offer, don’t ask, “Why not?” Not only is it considered rude and juvenile, but it also puts the other couple in an awkward position and, worse, they may actually tell you why not.

Form friendships
If you begin engaging in a conversation with another couple who’s interested, don’t focus simply on the partner you plan to bang; your objective is to become friends with the couple , not just the babe.

Have quiet arguments
If you and your woman end up in an argument (you never know what the first time will garner), have your discussion in private, away from the party.

Don’t stare
Don’t open closed doors to bedrooms and the like, and don’t ogle people. It’s considered rude for obvious reasons.

Don’t get drunk
Most parties are BYOB, so I think it’s a good idea not to bring too much liquor with you. While a couple of drinks may help you and your woman loosen up, getting drunk is not a good idea. You will act like a fool, and may end up in situations you’ll regret later.

Use protection
Although some places make it mandatory, others don’t. I recommend that you wear condoms and put them on right. This is not to assume that swingers have STDs, but rather that you’re better off being safe. And use a new condom with each new partner. As well, if you like, you can use a barrier for oral sex.

Stay clean
If you’ve used your hands or fingers on a woman’s anus or vagina, don’t touch anyone else (even yourself) until you’ve washed your hands with an anti-bacterial soap (usually provided by the host).

no man on man

Believe it or not, there is rarely, if ever, man on man sex going on at swingers’ events. Usually, it’s women on women, easily, but there’s no men getting it on with each other. It’s not because the community is homophobic; just the opposite, in fact — it’s simply not part of the culture.

But back to the women I hate to break it to you, but whereas you’re usually the one who’s dying to go to one of these swinger shindigs, it’s usually your girl who’ll get all the attention, not you. But if she’s cool, she’ll hook you up, or at least share.

where to go

And if you’re still keen on the idea and want to find a club near you, check out http://www.nasca.com. And if you’d rather swing whilst on vacation instead, then check out http://www.lifestyles.org.

And until next time, forget the chandelier, this is where you should be swinging.

Ashley Sweete

Spokes-Model

The Treasure Club
520 Swannanoa River Road
Asheville, NC 28805
Phone: 828-298-1400

Sexy Ways Women Seduce Men

Seduction techniques can often be very subtle and surprisingly simple. In fact a lot of men do not pick up on the ways women seduce them, and often miss out on forming a sexual connection with someone they find deeply attractive.

Women are highly sexual creatures and are driven by lust and desire in similar ways to men. Here are a few ways women seduce men so you can tell if you are onto a winner.

Using their womanly features is a great way to attract a guy. Woman will make the most of their assets and try to make the man she wants to notice her. When talking with women watch their hand and body movements. Does she casually move her hand to her hair, or play with her necklace or neck line of her top? This is one of the ways women seduce men, by encouraging them to look over her body.

Flirting can be done without the women noticing, however if she really is interested in you, she will be well aware of her actions. Touching your leg or arm briefly, hanging on your every word, laughing in all the right places. Catching your eye from across the room, holding your gaze and giving you a smile is a sure way to determine if she is hoping to seduce you.

Playing hard to get is not really a way women seduce men. Read her signals, she will want your attention and will respond quickly and happily to your questions and attention. Occasionally a woman might try to attract a guy by letting them know someone is interested in them. If she lets you know she is not interested, and would like some protection, this is a good sign.

Once you have responded to her advances, she will most likely allow you to feel like a man, and let you finish the hard work she has put in. This is a very sexy way women seduce men, as she will give you permission to take control, showing she is submitting to you. Don’t think this is weakness on her part; it is simply her permitting you the chance to feel like a man in a safe environment.

These are the ways women seduce men, and you might be surprised by how many women around you have been trying to get your attention. Pay attention to women and learn to read the signs.